Posted 01 March 2008 - 10:33 PM
I was going to post on this thread to try to impart a little wisdom to BS. But, indeed, the the thread is not about that, so ...
Aw, f**k it, I'll address that and then move on to Robert Mugabe.
Banshees, I don't quite understand why you need to hijack so many threads and turn them into threads about you.
I'm not quite a sympathetic enough person to say that I think you're a nice guy. I do think, though, that while you make rather an arse of yourself often [I don't read the forum enough to know, perhaps, the extent to which you do] you probably don't mean to do so. You're an idiot, but you have enough intelligence, I think, to change that. So much of what capacity for that you have is channelled into reinforcing your idiocy; if you diverted some of the enormous stretches of time spent thinking about yourself into thinking about yourself a little more constructively you could, I think and hope, become a far better and more interesting person.
This forum is one of the best available on the intertubes for at least two reasons. First, it is populated by bright people who are united by an interest in something [the, to some people, tasteless pursuit of trying to identify people soon likely to to die] that marks them out as interestingly different from the hoi pollloi (yes, I know that the "the" is tautologous bearing in mind the Greek). Second, though, most of the posters here are clever, wise and kind enough to realise that a young person like yourself may be an idiot but is not beyond redemption. I hope that the "young" reference is not too patronising, but it is a fact that your posts demonstrate a lack of experience of the world and a lack of self-awareness that comes with that. Take it as a compliment that I believe that your intellect [don't get carried away, here, though; I'm never expecting you to win a Nobel prize] will allow you one day to rise above yourself. But, regardless, people here engage with you despite thinking you offensively moronic. Real life is not often like that. Be grateful for the opportunities, and look for them here, to take advice about how to think more intelligently.
I'm not going to make a cheap shot about your seeing a therapist regularly. It's great that, if you feel you need or could benefit from help from a professional about that way you feel about the world, you have that opportunity. But one thing I would suggest is that perhaps you consider the idea that you simply need to decide for yourself that you should be less of a dick and then simply engage with the world on that basis.
Therapy can be a very self-indulgent hobby. If somebody is inherently self-indulgent and feels that the world ought to indulge their idiocies more, I think therapy can worsen that. My feeling is that this applies to you.
Obviously, I am not a doctor/shrink, however. But can I suggest something? Can I suggest that, even just as an experiment, you try to view the world as centring less around you but perhaps accepting that you are a little part of a far, far more interesting picture and that while you are not worthless your worth is partly contingent on you dealing with others? And perhaps your dealings with DL can, for you, be a little experiment in this regard? Try to lessen your sense of self-importance on this forum and see what the result is. My feeling is that people here will like you more, and you may realise that by stopping being so self-obsessed you will find yourself happier.
I could be wrong. I'm often wrong in lots of different situations.
But maybe try it. And maybe try more to bear in mind that this is a forum where while, although most people think you're a W**ker, those people continue to engage with you. That says a lot about them, and you may take that as encouragement to try to change. That sounds horribly patronising; I'm sorry, but I'm honest. You don't need to play around with a thesaurus as it appears you do [I may be wrong, but your basic grammatical mistakes sit oddly with some of your linguistic structures] Just be yourself and maybe, a little, improve yourself by stripping away your defensiveness.
In other forums you will find people less accommodating. You once made some smartarse remark about poker such that I challenged you to a heads up match. My offer remains. I'll happily play you in a match for anything up to a thousand quid or so online. The fact that I'm aware you were all mouth and no trousers and that I'm happy to let this pass [though, Jeez, I'd be really grateful of the opportunity to fleece you, if you fancy] is, I think, reflective of the general view of this forum. That people are forgiving and open to the possibility of change.
I'm sorry if I sound like a patronising W**ker. This is a public message rather than PM because I want others to see that my view [which is worth nothing] is that probably, at heart, you're an OK person. Perhaps I'm wrong of course. Maybe you're just a C-word. But if you are an OK person, which I like to think you are, you will find that the people around on this forum [I believe] are a good bunch of people that will very, very happily and with great pleasure see your metamorphosis into the rather more interesting person you ought to be.
You don't need a therapist for that.
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.... Now on to Mugabe.
Nothing here interesting, either, really, except to say that a distant South African psychologist cousin of mine who I stayed with in 2000 before I visited Zim said that her professional opinion was that, judging by his physical appearance/movements Mugabe had a condition along the lines of Parkinson's etc.
Had my energy not been sapped by my ramble above I'd have gone on to a rant about Mr M. But it's all gone. Another time...