NHS agreeing to replacement joint surgery for people who are over 80 and most definitely senile. Apologies but this is a bit of a rant. My dad, who is nearly 81 and a star of a man, he has been slowly nosediving into what is called 'Senile Dementia', he is clear for Alzheimers but the degeneration is much the same. I'm sitting here most nights watching my dad forget what he has just watched on the telly, forget he'd just let the dog out, forget he'd just boiled the kettle for a cup of tea, forget he'd just kissed my mum (his wife of nearly 50 years) goodnight, forget he'd said goodnight to me and do it all again.
NHS seem to think he will be fine to have a new knee, we are not allowed to challenge this as we don't have Power of Attorney. They don't care that he won't have the mental wherewithall to undergo the physio. i can only hope that at some point in the next 4 weeks someone will listen to my concerns.
Unfortunately it's painful to watch. I went through the same thing with my gran, her dementia was undiagnosed for almost 30 years.
Eventually she had to go in a nursing home as there was no one in my family who was able to look after her. I'd go round to her flat to cook her dinner every other evening so she wouldn't get food poisoning. She had it in her head that if it says gas mark 4 for 50 minutes she could throw it in on gas mark 8 for 25.
Then when she'd come to visit, she was hoping to catch the eye of the elderly man next door by flashing her ankles at him.
By the time she was in the nursing home, she thought my sister was my mum and my nephew was me. She recognised my voice, but not my face.
Probably the saddest thing was that both her and my other gran lived in the same nursing home and never met in the 35 years that my parents were married for at the time.
I can understand a little of what you're going through, sadly it's those closest that suffer watching the decline and there's yet to be a cure.
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DDP 2015 - 5/20
Lauren Hill, Little Jimmy Dickens, Sylvia Miles, Liz Dawn, Joao Havelenge, Sam Simon, Chris Woodhead, Billy Graham, Daisy Berkowitz, Stephen Lewis, Jimmy Perry, Peter Sutcliffe, Ian Brady, Peter Vaughan, John Stephenson, Jerry Maren, Ian St. John, Patricia Hitchcock, Robert M. Pirsig, Nancy Reagan
2015 Shadow List
Jean Alexander, Muhammed Ali, Daisy Berkowitz, Tom "Dynamite Kid" Billington, Ian Brady, George H.W Bush, Jacques Chirac, Beverly Cleary,
George Cole, Liz Dawn, Little Jimmy Dickens, Bob Dole, Clarissa Eden, Janet Fielding, June Foray, Zsa Zsa Gabor, Gaston Glock, Billy Graham, "Superstar" Billy Graham, Joao Havelange, Lauren Hill, Patricia Hitchcock, Clive James, B.B. King, Helmut Kohl, Stephen Lewis, Jerry Maren, Sylvia Miles, Al Molinaro, Mary Tyler Moore, Hosni Mubarak, Robert Mugabe, Les Munro, Leonard Nimoy, Denis Norden, Maureen O'Hara, Jimmy Perry, Leslie Phillips, Nancy Reagan, Don Rickles, Sonny Rollins, Peter Sallis, Helmut Schmidt, Sam Simon, Dudley Simpson, Ian St. John, Percy Sledge, Peter Sutcliffe, Peter Vaughan, Chris Woodhead
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DDP 2014 4/20 - Joint 71st , DDP 2013 11/20 - Joint 24th, DDP 2012 8/20 - Joint 47th